I want to congratulate Jody Schoger
and Alicia Stales for creating a safe community on twitter when they began
#BCSM. And then, extend an extra special thanks to Deanna Attai for
joining as co-moderator.
Rather than repeat everything that is reprinted
below, this is what appeared in USA Today compliments of journalist Liz Szabo who wrote this article. Liz is a friend, a supporter and a participant in the Breast Cancer Social Media community. She always shares links to anything she finds. She is a big part of the community and deserves to be congratulated, too. Her participation from the very beginning by using the hashtag (#BCSM for the non-tweeps) has sent ripples that I'm sure helped to grow the community.
The
group is a powerhouse of support as Liz explains in her piece. There is a video which is worth watching if you click to the USA Today website here.Bottom line? The chat may last for one hour each Monday but the hashtag is used frequently. The "bat signal" is a tweet using #bcsm which generally guarantees a response from someone, usually quickly. Does this really work? Yep. I know first hand.
One night not too long after this community was formed, I was having a really rough time trying to get to sleep. I had a doctor appointment the following day and I was suffering from scanxiety. I THINK something was already "suspicious" (it turned out to be a big nothing but that, folks, is life after a cancer diagnosis). Nothing is ever NOTHING. Until the doctor says it's nothing. After which we generally spend the next month trying to believe it really IS nothing and close the chapter on that "episode." We live in a minefield of nothings. Most of us are acutely aware nothing could be a big something. This "after" crap isn't the easiest course to navigate.
This particular night, I was a mess. It was after 3AM. There are people I COULD contact but I don't throw down the 3AM call unless it's essential. A nervous breakdown doesn't fall under the essential to use a 3AM call category. Into the twitterverse, I sent my nerves. Within moments, someone replied. "Try to rest. You aren't alone. Sending hugs." That tweet was sent to me from a total stranger, and if I remember correctly it was someone in South Africa. What I do remember? The tears stinging my eyes. Sleep came soon after. I wasn't alone. There is global support.
I want to share a very public debt of gratitude to Jody, Alicia and Deanna for providing a "place" that has not only been a source of support but has brought together so many people. Besides Deanna who is a breast surgeon, we have a number of doctors and psychologists who participate in those chats. Friendships have formed that I know will last a lifetime. Emotions run deeply despite the fact that many of us have never spoken to each other.
Thank you, Thank you.... THANK YOU.... BCSM has made the world smaller and I know it continues to ripple around the globe. Next Monday evening at 9PM, use tweetchat. Simply type BCSM into the box and "lurk" ..... or, put your fingers on ice and jump in.....
From Liz Szabo via USA Today:
BREAST CANCER SURVIVOR GROUP IS A SOCIAL MOVEMENT
7:40AM EDT October 23. 2012 - Twitter, perhaps best known lately as a source of Big Bird jokes, might not seem like the first place to look for a breast cancer support group, a boot camp in medical research or the seeds of a social movement.
Yet a weekly Twitter chat on breast cancer, launched just over
year ago, has blossomed into all those things and more, participants say.
The online chat, known as BCSM -- or breast cancer social media
-- has a growing following of men and women looking to share war stories,
empower patients and change the national conversation on breast cancer.
Folks who join the chats "are amazing. And they tell each
other so," says co-founder and breast cancer survivor Jody Schoger, 58, of
The Woodlands, Texas. "They find the best in each other and celebrate that
quality."
Robert Miller, a medical oncologist at the Johns Hopkins Kimmel
Cancer Center In Baltimore, is a frequent guest expert on BCSM. Miller says he
understands how those unfamiliar with Twitter might be "skeptical that
exchanging 140-character messages with a group of strangers for an hour every
Monday night would be an effective tool. But it really is."
Psychologist Ann Becker-Schutte, a frequent guest expert on BCSM,
says the support group take its positive tone from its leaders.
Schoger and her fellow organizers -- who became friends online
months before ever meeting face to face -- each bring unique talents, says
Becker-Schutte, who specializes in helping people with serious diseases.
Schoger is a writer with a background in public relations.
Co-founder Alicia Staley, 41, is a three-time cancer survivor from Boston, as
well as an information technology analyst and online community manager. The
third member of the team, California breast surgeon Deanna Attai, joined BCSM
during its second chat and quickly became a co-moderator.
A well of support
Each moderator works hard to keep conversations on track and
avoid the pitfalls of traditional support groups, Becker-Schutte says. While
other support groups may allow people to vent their frustration, she says, BCSM
provides a way for people to transform those frustrations into action.
In most support groups, "one or two patients sort of take
over, and it turns into a bitch session," Attai says. "That's not
what you see with #BCSM. ... We have a common goal -- that's to educate,
empower and support, and all that participate seem to embrace that."
Schoger says she's been pleased to see how BCSM helps women --
and the occasional man -- think through complex issues and become leaders.
"So many of these women are writing stronger blog pieces
and are taking up the mantle in different breast cancer organizations,"
Schoger says. "I just love watching it."
Staley says the group's success has surprised her. There's no
formal promotion. Instead, early participants often stumbled across the chats
after searching for keywords -- known on Twitter as hashtags -- such as cancer.
"This is something incredible that has grown out of a
hashtag," Staley says.
The virtual community has spent more than 600 hours in
conversation since their first chat. Schoger alone devotes about 15 hours a
week to BCSM, and another 10 more to her blog, Women With Cancer.
The key to forming a close-knit community, Schoger says, is
listening. She notes that many organizations and companies use social media such
as Twitter as a one-way broadcasting system to put out a message of the day.
The most successful people in social media foster real conversations, she says.
Becker-Schutte notes that the women's fellowship doesn't end
with their hour-long chats. BCSM leaders monitor the group's ongoing
conversations. "If someone is having a hard time, it isn't long before
someone responds." Becker-Schutte says.
Conversations such as BCSM fill a huge void, Attai says. She
began chatting with breast cancer patients after noticing a 1 a.m. conversation
between two women about Paget's disease of the breast, a rare form of cancer
that Attai has treated.
"Patients just aren't getting the information they
need," Attai says. "Two women shouldn't have to go online in the
middle of the night."
And although individual tweets are brief, the group delves into
deep subjects. BCSM has tackled issues such as parenting and maintaining a
career through breast cancer treatment; emotions such as anger, anxiety about
recurrence and survivor's guilt; and post-treatment complications such as
"chemo brain" and lymphedema, which causes arm swelling.
Staley, who developed breast cancer twice after receiving
radiation for Hodgkin lymphoma, says many patients feel alone. She divides her
cancer experience into three phases: diagnosis, treatment and
"after."
"The diagnosis comes at you fast and furious," says
Staley, who blogs at awesomecancersurvivor.com. "You make your decision
for treatment. You get to the end of the treatment plan, and you get a pat on
the back and off you go into the world. I've been through this three times, and
the 'after' part is the hardest. You are pushed back into the real world and
you have to redevelop your framework for connecting. That's what this community
has done, to prop me up post-treatment, to get me back into the real
world."
The Internet is teeming with online support groups, of course,
including dozens just for breast cancer, Schoger says. Hundreds of cancer
survivors across the USA now blog about their experiences.
Online communities can be especially powerful for those with
rare diseases, who often may not be able to find other people with their
condition in their communities, says Terry Lynn Arnold, of Friendswood, Texas.
Arnold, who has a rare type of breast cancer called inflammatory
breast cancer, says she has formed close bonds on Facebook with women she would
likely never have met in person.
Doing their homework
BCSM stands out from most other support groups, however, because
of its rigorous focus on medical evidence, Attai says.
Given that myths and misinformation can spread like wildfire
online, Attai says it's crucial for BCSM to provide accurate information that's
supported by strong science. The group regularly dissects the latest research
and routinely recruits experts. Some of the more science-heavy topics have
included clinical trials, hereditary breast cancers and how to avoid
"voodoo medicine."
In addition to Miller and Becker-Schutte, guest experts have
included Matthew Katz, director of radiation oncology at Lowell General
Hospital in Massachusetts; Julie Gralow, director of breast medical oncology at
the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance; and St. Louis breast surgeon Diane Radford.
Although the group has plenty of compassion for people with
cancer, members have little patience for hecklers, self-promoters or spammers,
Staley says.
"There are plenty of angry communities on Twitter, but
we're not one of them," Attai says. "If someone wants to pick a
fight, they will quickly learn that's not what we are about. If someone wants
to come and promote broccoli extract (as a cure for cancer), we will call them
out on that, and they will go elsewhere."
Connecting across platforms
Attai and other doctors say the chats have given them a better
sense of what patients are going through, and "how much my patients were
holding back from me."
And while the community may be virtual, the emotions expressed
are palpable, especially when participants are in crisis, or grieving the loss
of a loved one, Schoger says.
Last February, BCSM lost two of its members in one day.
Organizers scrapped their planned chat and devoted the entire hour to
remembering the two women. "We had what can only be called a virtual
wake," Schoger says.
And while BCSM isn't political, the community has developed a
strong voice on key issues in breast cancer. The group regularly criticizes
"pinkwashing," or the commercialization of breast cancer, which is
invoked throughout October to sell products. Breast cancer bloggers are taking
up the issue, as well, so much that "pink-ribbon fatigue" is becoming
a common phrase.
Members of BCSM are also "fearless friends" to women
with metastatic disease, which has spread to other organs and is incurable.
Such women often feel unwelcome and abandoned by other breast cancer groups,
Attai says.
"It seems like the community as a whole have turned their
backs on men and women with metastatic breast cancer," Attai says.
"If you don't fit into this narrow window with pink, 'happy' cancer, then
the community has no place for you."
Partly due to efforts like BCSM's, women with metastatic disease
say their concerns are far more visible this year than just a year ago.
Lessons spread
BCSM's founders say they would love to help other patients start
or expand similar communities. Patients with very aggressive kinds of cancer,
such as ovarian or brain tumors, often aren't healthy enough to form the sorts
of advocacy groups that exist in breast cancer, Staley says. Often, these
patients go immediately into aggressive treatments, which can make it difficult
for them to organize support groups.
There are more than 2 million breast cancer survivors alive
today, however, and many of them are relatively young and tech-savvy, she says.
Creating more communities like BCSM, however, would require
finding moderators who are equally compassionate, dedicated and informed,
Becker-Schutte says.
"They're pretty amazing," Becker-Schutte says.
"They are doing for the community what they wish had been available for
them in their initial diagnosis and treatment."
Thank you, my friend. You're a vital part of what makes #BCSM terrific.
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Jody
The story you just shared has so much importance on many different levels. BCSM is a really strong presence online - a bat signal like you phrased so well, and just being able to connect anytime, anywhere and with anyone who has some understanding . . . well, it's amazing. The world is certainly shrinking. ~Catherine
ReplyDeleteSo glad that you shared this on your blog!
ReplyDeleteWonderful article...both you and Liz. But you're wrong about one thing. "A nervous breakdown doesn't fall under the essential to use a 3AM call category" is just wrong! Especially since it's only midnight here. Love you tons, and I'm ALWAYS here. XOXO
ReplyDeleteFabulous piece, AM and many thanks to our wonderful Liz and Jody, Alicia, and Dr. Attai and so many others. I've been fortunate enough to meet you in person and feel like we've known each other our whole lives. You are right that social media cuts through all the nonsense. You've all helped more than you will ever know and I'm so grateful that I found all of you. XO
ReplyDeleteI'm tinkled pinkless about the wonderful coverage our BCSM group is getting. Our moderators are awesome, and Liz Szabo is a great friend and knowledgeable person indeed. I had read the USA Today article and was in AWE. It's so wonderful to have an online community of friends. Anyway, I've been out of the blogosphere for awhile and doing a gradual re-entry. Nothing wrong, just a lot going on at work.....
ReplyDeleteNothing is ever nothing...so true! Love the story of your South African angel looking out for you in the wee hours. xo
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad I found #bcsm...I've put a few tweets on there. A few replies...
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